Procrastination Isn’t Laziness: The Real Reason We Get Stuck!
Ever stare down a task you know you need to do… and still walk away from it? Yeah, me too. In this episode, I’m joined by psychotherapist Steven Melman to unpack what’s really going on when we procrastinate—and how we can start breaking the cycle.
We talk about the emotional side of procrastination, including fear of failure, perfectionism, and even the stories we carry from childhood. Steven shares practical tools and honest insight to help you move from stuck to steady—whether you're trying to finish a project, show up better for your family, or just get out of your own head.
If you've ever told yourself "I'll do it later," this episode is for you.
In This Episode:
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The hidden emotional reasons behind procrastination
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Why it’s not about laziness—and how perfectionism plays a role
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What “reward and punishment” can teach us about motivation
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How parenting styles impact the habits we carry into adulthood
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Steven’s personal story of proving people wrong (and how it shaped him)
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What to do when fear of success or failure holds you back
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The simple practice that can build real self-discipline
Resources & Links:
🎓 Steven Melman’s Website:
stevenmelmanpsychotherapist.com
📘 His Book: Guidance for New Clinicians in a Chaotic World
Available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and other online retailers
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Steven Melman
Steven Melman received a Master's Degree in Clinical Psychology and is a Licensed Professional Counselor and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. He has been in the mental health field for over 40 years. He has had a successful private practice for over 25 years, assisting clients with a variety of issues: depression and bipolar, substance abuse, couples and their struggles, including parenting and helping children and adolescents. He takes very seriously the issues that bring clients to counseling. However, he wants to strike a balance between helping clients resolve their problems but also encouraging clients to bring their sense of humor, as he wants the experience to be pleasurable. In addition, he has experience and expertise in conducting presentations, Critical Incidence Stress Debriefings, and management consultations.
